God marvelously prepares us for what lies ahead. Two years before Linda and I were married, in chapel, a classmate sang the old hymn, “God Leads Us Along.” I had no clue that its message would become foundational to my understanding of how God cares for his children and serve as a guide for Walking Victoriously... Continue Reading →

The plans for this week have been made: On Tuesday, I will share a nice meal with Linda and her Legacy Village family; on Thursday, my family will join me in Richmond, Kentucky as we celebrate Thanksgiving with Linda’s siblings and their families. I am having a hard time wrapping my mind and emotions around... Continue Reading →

Heeding the wise counsel of my children, and giving a nod to common sense, I am revisiting, with some updates, thoughts I expressed in a previous blog. Twenty-seven years ago, an overly developed sense of responsibility, an unrealistic work schedule, and an unwillingness to accept my limitations caused me to ignore all the warning signs... Continue Reading →

In the past three years, I have spent hundreds of hours visiting my wife Linda, a resident of the memory care unit at Legacy Village. This has allowed me to build wonderful memories which I will treasure after her homegoing. My time with her, as well as the opportunity to observe the residents, caregivers, and... Continue Reading →

A successful journey requires building upon past history, engaging the present, and moving toward a clearly defined destination. Nearly a decade ago, while Linda’s mental capabilities were still largely intact, we revisited our spiritual heritage and searched for ways to keep our hope in God alive. Now, I am increasingly aware that, in all probability,... Continue Reading →

Take a look at the picture accompanying today’s blog. As long as such a call benefits the team we are rooting for, the drama surrounding the umpire’s decision inevitably brings us to our feet with cheers and prolonged applause. Thankfully, our decisions very seldom have to be made in a split second and are not... Continue Reading →

Effectively serving as a primary caregiver to a person suffering from Alzheimer’s requires flexibility and a willingness to try new things. For the past eighteen years, especially the last six, a significant portion of my life has been spent in searching for answers. Unexpectedly, in the past year and a half, I have observed that the... Continue Reading →

As Alzheimer’s continues its quest to consume Linda’s personality and eventually claim her life, in order to remain relevant, I remind myself she is on a journey she cannot control; and I can best serve her by directing from the sidelines. The whimsical look on her face in the picture accompanying today’s blog captures the... Continue Reading →

Prior to the opening of Legacy Village, complications from a previous surgery occurred, after I was given incorrect medication. When the long-awaited day, October 1, 2018, arrived, Linda was one of the first persons to be admitted. In the morning, our daughter Stephanie and I spent several hours helping her adjust to her new home.... Continue Reading →

Several months ago, in a previous blog, I noted: “A caregiver to a dementia patient often finds the chasm between hope and hopelessness seemingly insurmountable -- with no way over, around, or through in sight!” For me, the solution to this predicament is found in a simple principle: Two opposing cognitions cannot be held over... Continue Reading →